Finding a trauma-based therapist is an important first step in your healing journey. From there you must learn to trust the therapist you've chosen. After all, this is someone whom you'll be working collaboratively and cooperatively with them for therapy to work.
Initially your therapist is a stranger to you. Since you're already feeling like life is against you, unknown people and situations may make you weary. Add to it the fact that your PTSD has shaped how you view other people and you may have some serious distortions to deal with. Here are some tips to help guide you in the right direction - that of trusting your therapist.
Start by Rethinking Trust
The easiest way to gain trust in your therapist is to focus on them. Initially you'll want to observe them from the outside where you feel safe.
Learn to Trust Yourself First
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Ask Your Therapist to Help You Feel Comfortable
View Your Therapist as a Partner
You don't know your therapist in the beginning and you've brought with you distrust issues too. When your trauma has been brought on by people, being in a small with someone can trigger you. This is something you can reduce by anticipating it ahead of time. You should also disclose this problem to your therapist.
Understanding the Negativity Bias
Understanding the Influence of Trauma Memory
There are two main issues here:
- The people problem: You'll make sense of your therapist based on your previous personal experiences with other people. This can seriously distort your perception. The best way to manage this is to think about what you've learned from your experiences and how not every generalization is true for every situation or person. Unfortunately, this is something you won't notice until you notice your thinking and question it.
- The brain function problem: Your brain becomes constantly noisy when it has active, unresolved trauma memories. Not only is this annoying but it's also distracting and makes you feel powerless. When this happens we struggle to see things the way they really are. You can think of this as an invisible fog. This means you need to slow down, be cautious, and pay attention to what's happening around you. Stick to the facts. Eventually as you address your trauma in therapy you won't need to do this so frequently.
Training Yourself to Recognize Safe Situations
Entering therapy with active trauma memory means you have a lot to learn. Initially you may not even realize this. Remember, learning is possible if you're persistent and patient. Don't expect too much from yourself in the beginning. Instead, learn to tolerate your ineptness. Stick with the process. Believe that good changes will happen and they will. Think of this as a maturation process and you'll eventually emerge successful.
This is some great advice. I haven't ever seen a therapist yet, but I imagine I will down the line. I certainly will want to trust them!ReplyDelete
Yes, trust is such a major thing here especially.Delete
I think trusting a therapist can be one of the hardest things you have to do. It is only when you get to that point you can really start to open up.ReplyDelete
Unfortunately, I believe you're right. I got to that point with one therapist and started working things out until he started to take things too lightly. His disregard for the relationship is making it more challenging for me to trust a therapist this time.Delete
This is so timely because my daughter is seeing her therapist today and suffers from low self esteem at times. It is important to find a therapist you trust and can confide in.ReplyDelete
I wish your daughter all the best.Delete
I also feel that you must find the therapist that you feel most comfortable with. I've been lucky in that most of the time I haven't had to ask to try a different therpist, except one time when I was seeing a 'training person' vs a real counselor. I love therapy, it has always helped me when times get really hard. It's helped me through some difficult chapters and helped me learn more on how I think/view and so forth so that I can do the hard work of being stronger and more confident.ReplyDelete
I agree with you. Therapy has really been a blessing in my life too.Delete
These are such great tips.. Even though I don't have a therapist.ReplyDelete
You never know when you may need one.Delete
These tips are great and it's the best way to start to trust your therapist. Thanks for the suggestions!ReplyDelete
Thank you. I'm glad you found them helpful.Delete
These are really great tips. I just started working with my therapist on some unresolved trauma. It's a long journey but so worth it!ReplyDelete
It really is a long journey. I've seen the benefits and hope to see them again with my new therapist. Best wishes for your journey.Delete
Trusting your therapist is so important. Thanks so much for sharing the law tips.ReplyDelete
All great suggestions. Thanks for the tips!ReplyDelete
I have learned that therapy is something that really takes you whole effort. These people really want to help.ReplyDelete
Yes it definitely takes a lot of effort but the result is well worth it.Delete
This seems like a much needed post and I'm sure this is helping a lot of people. Thanks for your insight.ReplyDelete
Thank you for helping me see I'm reaching my goals.Delete