I am Free to Be Me!


A woman standing on a cliff watching the sunset. Her hands are in the air to celebrate that she's free to be me.
Are you celebrating what it means to be "free to be me?"

I've been dealing with a lot of stuff over here which is why I haven't been posting on this blog as much. When I last posted I was lacking motivation and I'm sure that didn't help me either. Since then things have changed for the better. We move into our new (and hopefully better) apartment in less than 2 months, I've found a therapist I really like, and I've somehow become motivated again. However, the one thing I wanted to share here is how I've started feeling a lot more free to be me.

What do I mean by "free to be me?"

In the past, I used to feel like I had to be a people pleaser. This came from how I was raised as a child. My parents were never happy unless I was doing things to make them happy. Unfortunately, this is something that I carried with me for a long time into adulthood. Then suddenly one day I said enough, I want to be free to be me.

Being free to be me was never a conscious choice for me. One day I basically just had enough of feeling like I could never measure up or do enough. I decided I was going to do something that made me happy and started asking myself "What do I want to do at this moment?" Doing so made me feel so good that I never stopped.

Does this mean that I blow off work or responsibilities? Am I being reckless with life? 

No, there are still responsibilities and work and (for me) school. These aren't things that I can just blow off, but I'm fortunate enough to decide when, where and how I want to manage these responsibilities. For me, this is another part of being free to be me because I wouldn't feel good about myself if I didn't uphold these responsibilities.

Why is it important to be free to be me?

I encourage you to ask yourself today what you want to do at this moment. Even if you can only do this once or twice a day it still allows you to show yourself some compassion. This simple phrase is also an important part of self-care. By loving and nurturing yourself you'll not only change yourself for the better, you'll also shed more love on those around you.

Until next time, I'll continue to be free to be me and I hope you will too. In fact, I'd love to hear about how this simple little phrase changes your life too.

~ Bre