Ruby Hem Ministries

Being in a codependent relationship with your adult child Being in a Codependent Relationship with Your Adult Child... This is something I've recently concluded is an issue for me: My 18-year-old daughter and I are codependent. Up to this point I wouldn't have cared but let's dig deep here for a bit... Let's start by understanding what the term codependent actually means. Codependence is a complex pattern of excessive selflessness and preoccupation with another person that does not serve both people optimally. Codependency (or codependence, co-narcissism or inverted narcissism) is a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality of life. - Wikipedia.org When you look at this definition you see that a codependent person is someone who is unable to function on their own. They depend on another person to help them think, process, and essentially live. In doing so they're essentially peopl

How to Help a Loved One with PTSD

It is possible to reestablish a healthy, whole life even with PTSD, but doing so is challenging. Here are a few things that will need to occur for this to happen. Focus on Family-Centered Care for Your Loved One Family-centered care is that wherein a woman's family (whomever she believes to be her support system) works together to provide her with support and structure. Educating these people, along with the patient herself, is important because stigma and lack of understanding at home will negatively impact her condition and her recovery. When they're knowledgeable about PTSD they're more likely to show compassion. Help Your Loved One Overcome Mental Health Care's Stigmatization It's important to understand that the way the nervous system reacts to stressors is automatic - beyond anyone's conscious control. A combination of factors are at play here (e.g. gender, childhood experiences, genetics, culture). Therefore you shouldn't consider it a "weaknes

Understanding Yourself - The Inner Workings of Your Mind

What PTSD does to your brain As I've mentioned before, PTSD is a brain injury. For this reason, it's important to understand how our brain works so that we can work with it better. One thing you may be surprised by here is that there are so many things going on inside of each of our brains - things that we don't even realize are happening, let alone know how they're effecting our lives. These things are what are known as beliefs. Beliefs are our brain's map of how we view everything in the world - God, relationships, money, sexuality, and everything else in between... Each of us has some type of belief that's been woven into our brains because of how life has happened to and around us. These beliefs are both conscious and unconscious, meaning that sometimes we know why they're happening but at other times we may not even realize that they're happening. The weird thing is that most of these beliefs occur before our brains are fully formed because this fu